Belief and the dating game
By tony leather, 25th Apr 2012 | Follow this author
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Research being done in this area provides insight into potentially harmful misunderstandings about sexual intent, helping cement the idea that since men tend to over-estimate female sexual interest, it might be worth it for the girls to tone down flirtatious tendencies..
Belief and the dating game
Belief and the dating game
Unrequited love, or more likely unrequited lust is something guys know all about. They meet a girl and think her hot, but she is not that interested apparently, yet he will keep on chasing her, because male pride will not let him accept that she is not interested..
Unlike those Hollywood romance films, a recent study diascovered the possibly inevitable fact of men tending to think themselves more sexually attractive than women actually find them, while girls tend not to think that men are really serious about wanting them.
Obviously, encounters between potential sexual partners are unpredictable at best, though those conducting the study feel that there may be deep-rooted reasons for signals getting crossed when such encounters happen.
All too often women are fed-up with those unwanted advances, while men seem repeatedly confused by reaction to their sexual advances in such situations. Men have always had to had to make the decision about whether an individual is sexually interested in them or not, but it seems that men in olden times were braver, the reason the gene-pool todayis so diverse.
Missing mating opportunities is for men a big deal, because these sexual encounters are only rarely successful in terms of reproduction, simply because fertilization of an egg is such a hit and miss affair. The fact that guys have over-inflated opinions of how sexually appealing they are makes many encounters unproductive.
When 200 college students were put into a test speed-dating scenario about first impressions, each interacted with five others of the opposite sex, rating how interesting they seemed to others and how interested in others they seemed to be on a sliding scale.
Misperceptions varied greatly, the study offering clues to why this might be so. Men valuing long-term relationships were less likely to assume that women wanted them much more than they actually did than those, on the prowl for casual sex only.
Equally interesting was the difference in reality and perception of those men who women ranking low on the attractiveness scale. Better looking guys tended to be more realistic about women saw them, because they were more image confident.
Unsurprisingly, most men most often misread signals when with attractive women, probably because prettier women inevitably get the most attention, so they can be choosy. Most women like the male attention, but often get tired of fending off those who read sexual overtones into every encounter.
Research being done in this area provides insight into potentially harmful misunderstandings about sexual intent, helping cement the idea that since men tend to over-estimate female sexual interest, it might be worth it for the girls to tone down flirtatious tendencies..
On the flip side, men wanting to avoid unexpected rejections the guys could work on being a little more cautious in their approach, as well as learning to properly read direct signs from women before making any move on them. Belief in yourself can lead to a satisfactory sex-life, but over-confidence will more often than not have you falling flat on your face.
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