Guaranteed Tips to Improve Your Luck
By David Reinstein,LCSW, 9th Aug 2011 | Follow this author
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Good luck is not likely to happen if you are not open to it. Attitude and expectation are keys.
- Good Luck is not Fairly or Evenly Distributed
- Not all Gamblers are Lucky
- Be open to it!
- Finally, the tips!
Good Luck is not Fairly or Evenly Distributed
Some people seem to enjoy a disproportionate share of good luck. Others live lives wherein good luck seems to be entirely absent. Good luck, like most other things in the real world, is not evenly distributed - and no, it is not fair. However, this does not mean that you can't do anything about it. You can have more (or some) good luck but you will have to try to expect it.
The relationship between what we expect and what actually happens is the subject of many articles, philosophical treatises and even scientific researches. Not surprisingly, none are clearly conclusive and the results and conclusions often conflict with each other - with one important exception. Expectations.
While expecting or simply being open to good luck does not and can never assure it, (the teachings of various "Mind-schools" like EST and Scientology notwithstanding) if you don't believe that good things can and will happen, the likelihood that they will is greatly reduced. Expecting good things does not guarantee them, but believing that you cannot be lucky will pretty much demolish the possibility.
You are walking down the street with a friend. The friend suddenly stops, bends over and rises smiling with a $5 bill in his/her hand. What good luck! Why did they find it and not you?
There are probably a good many variables, but one of them was certainly that they were looking down at the right time. Some people expect to find things on the ground, so glance down at it frequently while they are walking.
Subtracting the expectation reduces the likelihood that the person will be looking down at a fortuitous moment. Subtract the looking down and that person will probably not see and find that $5. Concrete and oversimplified perhaps, but a fair example none-the-less.
Not all Gamblers are Lucky
People go to casinos to gamble. Some go with the expectation of winning, others with just the hope of laying down some money to enjoy the 'recreation' of being there and spending it. Of course, not everyone can or does win lest the Casinos would all be out of business. However, some people DO tend to come away with more money in their pockets than they came in with. How do they differ from the people who gamble and lose chronically?
Again, there are many variables that include skill, knowledge of the games, and having an appropriate type of "gambler's demeanor"...like maintaining a blank appearance (a "poker face") while playing cards. Those variables can be studied and learned. Another key variable is, again, the expectation.
Professional gamblers - people who win consistently enough to make their livings doing it are people who are not only open to the possibility of winning but actually expect and believe that they will, in fact, win.
The principle applies to more than winning money and to finding objects. Do you recall the old saying about someone being "Lucky in Love?" Expectations and openness play a critical role in our success in establishing and maintaining satisfying relationships with other people as well.
Be open to it!
As both a singular human on the face of the Earth and as a therapist, I have many people who feel trapped in hurtful and destructive relationships. They sometimes escape them but then find themselves in similar situations with a different person. Often it turns out that many of these people have come to expect that these are the kind of relationships they deserve and/or are perennially destined to have.
They have ceased being open to anything better. This expectation seals the deal. Change remains always possible, but has become increasingly unlikely.
People are not generally born with the expectations they have. We each develop them as functions of life experience and of the deliberate application of will and choice. Since none of us has the power to do much, if anything, about the past - the time and place and opportunity to engineer change is in the here and now.
Being open to what we have come to accept as impossible is an important step. Believing that one's luck CAN improve makes a fundamental shift in attitude that makes better luck possible. The person who never expects to find anything will not look down and see what's there. The person who expects to always have destructive and hurtful relationships probably will live that reality.
That's where the power and importance of choice and will comes in.
Finally, the tips!
1) It is good to want something to be different, but wanting alone isn't apt to change very much.
2) Forcing one's mind to open to things that have seemed impossible before is an important next step.
3) Finally, a final and necessary step - that of working hard to do the things that will physically manifest the change you hope for and applying the openness you are pursuing is of the essence.
There is no meaningful change without meaningful work.
Be open to it and try to expect it. Your luck can and will improve.
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10th Aug 2011 (#)
Fascinating. What sort of therapist are you, David? I ask because my husband is a therapist - a Cognitive Behavioural Therapist.
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10th Aug 2011 (#)
Hello David, refreshing read my friend, you are featuring the four leaf clover in your article and I'm featuring the common three leaf in my article. Interesting I think.Thank you
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10th Aug 2011 (#)
Expectations are everything. It will always be as you think it. We all create our own reality.
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11th Aug 2011 (#)
I agree. Desire something, believe that it'll happen, and expect it to materialise.
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11th Aug 2011 (#)
Interesting article, David. Thanks for sharing.
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11th Aug 2011 (#)
The mind has no boundaries, anything is possible...Great article, thanks David!
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12th Aug 2011 (#)
Very inspiring...and informative...thanks for sharing....
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13th Aug 2011 (#)
When I win the lottery, you will be the first to know, David..lol..Great article..
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24th Aug 2011 (#)
Great article, so true!
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