Asking the imposible through expectations and demands.

GenkiWorld By GenkiWorld, 11th Jan 2015 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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This article talks about the demands we make, the expectations we have of those around us and why when making them we should make sure we can do the same for them.

Expectations and demands.

As it is often the norm, my husband and I found ourselves in the middle of a very interesting conversation. This time the topic related to the demands and expectations people make and want from one another. Often times few of us give thought to the requests we ask of our loved ones, of our family, our children and all those other people we come in contact with on a daily bases. We might not even take in to consideration that some of the expectations and demands we ask and want from them could very well be impossible for many of those individuals.


Ask yourself this question: would you do something that a person asks of you when you know that person will not be capable of doing the same in return for you? Take for example honesty. We can’t ask, or demand honesty from a compulsive liar if we ourselves are likely to lie to that person. Take it the opposite way for example: a married couple, they have trust issues due to past incidents on which the wife or husband have cheated on each other. Can one of them request honesty and sincerity from the other knowing very well they would not be able, or willing to do the same in return?


But let’s not get so complicated. I am sure many of us are parents. As parents, it is our duty to be role models to our children and the younger generations of the family. A very common problem that just about every family is facing right now is the constant use of smart phones by everyone in the family. If you are a parent, I am sure you have told your children more than once to put their smart phones down while at the dinner table, having quality time, or going for a family outing. Meanwhile, we as parents, or at least some of us when making those requests from the children sit there, running our mouth of how improper is to use the smart phones while in the company of the family, or at the dinner table, yet while our mouths are running’s so are our fingers on a touch screen. How can we expect the children to adhere to our demands and requests if we ourselves can extend the same courtesy to them? Children learn and do most of what they know by imitating and following the example set by their parents and close role models. If we fail to set proper examples, who are we to demand from them good behavior and proper etiquette?


Now those were just a few examples of everyday life situations on which we make requests and demands from those around us without realizing that the same can’t be done for them, either out of respect, or just to extend a courtesy, or set an example. The old saying comes to mind: do on to others as you would like do on to you. There is no better truth to be kept in mind when we start running our mouths and requesting things from those around us, specially our loved ones. Just think of how many uncomfortable situations, conflicts and arguments could be avoided if we keep this in mind whenever we are about to make a request from someone close to us.

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Adults, Children, Daily Life, Demands, Expectations, Family, Impossible Things, Life Lessons, Life Tips, Personal Development, Personal Expectations, Possible Things, Relationship, Social Interaction, Society

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Hello Wikinutters, it is a pleasure to be a part of this community. I am a writer with a passion for all things writing.

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author avatar viewgreen
12th Jan 2015 (#)

Great article and thank you for sharing a kind of a good issue. Have a nice day.

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author avatar GenkiWorld
12th Jan 2015 (#)

thank you as well and glad you enjoyed reading it :)

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author avatar Carol Roach
12th Jan 2015 (#)

excellent my friend was must mirror to the world what we would like to happen for us

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author avatar GenkiWorld
12th Jan 2015 (#)

thank you, in an ideal world that is what we would all like to happen:)

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author avatar Nancy Czerwinski
12th Jan 2015 (#)

Great article and thank you for sharing it.

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author avatar GenkiWorld
12th Jan 2015 (#)

thanks, glad you found it enjoyable!

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author avatar Utah Jay
12th Jan 2015 (#)

Yes, a very good article, and to be honest with you, I do things for others with no expectations from them. If they need it and I can do it I do, without worry of reciprocation. A helpful hint. Put pictures between you paragraphs, give credits, and drop a link inviting folks to write on wikinut and the heavens will open.

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author avatar GenkiWorld
12th Jan 2015 (#)

very true, often i am told i am too kind hearted, but i just do things without expecting anything in return. btw, thanks a lot ofr that advice, i will put that in to practice :) it is just taking me a little while to take it all in and put it in to practice :)

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author avatar GV Rama Rao
12th Jan 2015 (#)

I admire your honesty. Most of us make this mistake of demanding something that we cannot give ourselves. But it's the way of life. It's easy to demand but difficult to practice.

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author avatar GenkiWorld
12th Jan 2015 (#)

as the saying goes: easier said than done, nothing comes easy in this life, even more when it comes to such things.

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