Bullying in the Modern World

Dafeenah By Dafeenah, 12th Mar 2011 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/1ko5pd5z/
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My opinion of how bullying has moved from the playground to online and how we can protect ourselves. People don't always play nice. What to do when they don't.

Bullying

If you are over the age of 13, then you have either been bullied or were the bully. Stealing lunch money, name calling, wedgies, noogies, and the list goes on and on. That was how bullies use to work, but with the invention of the internet and social networking, bullies have a whole new playground to play in. One that provides them with anonymity which allows them to be more cruel and more vicious. It also provides them with new ways of taunting, ways much more cruel than the atomic wedgie.

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Play Nice

I blog. I put my most intimate and private thoughts, feelings, and emotions out there for the world to see. I also use comment moderation, and if someone comments something that is inappropriate, mean, or hurtful, I delete it. I take away their power. I do not let them stop me from writing what I want, but I also protect myself in case they try to start their bullying. Usually they get bored because they aren't getting the response from me so they move on.

After seeing so many people writing on their blogs, "if you don't have something nice to say, then don't say anything at all", it made me realize that the majority of people are either ignorant of the world today or just have blinders on and don't want to see it for what it is.

Non Stranger Danger

We teach our kids the special password and tell them what to do if a stranger tries to take them and doesn't know the special password, but what about non stranger danger? What do they do when the entire girls' basketball team hangs them from the flagpole?

Everyday I read in the newspapers about another teenager commiting suicide because of bullying. As adults, we are failing our children. They are growing up in a world far more vicious than the one we grew up in. Now a rumor isn't just at school. It is posted on Facebook and instead of a few knowing, millions of people know. The embarrassment and humiliation felt is multiplied by a million %.

The only way out is suicide. This is what we have taught our children.

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Facing Reality

It is time we faced reality and started preparing our children and ourselves. While I wish it were not necessary, unfortunately it is extremely necessary. As technology races forward, the ways a bully can torture and torment increase along with the amount of humiliation and embarrassment for the victims of their bullying. While it would be wonderful if everyone "played nice", reality is the majority don't. We need to educate our children and face the realities of the ever changing world in which they live because they are slowly killing each other and themselves due to us not wanting to see the world for what it is. It's time to wake up to reality before time runs out.

Things We Can Do

We must teach our youth what to do if they are being bullied, but most importantly we must not diminish or ignore the impact of bullying in the modern age. It is no longer harmless. It is taking the lives of today's teens, one by one. If your child is being bullied, then it is your responsibility as a parent to protect them. If the school won't help, then sit in the principal's office every single day until they do because if you don't, then one day you might be sitting in the morgue waiting to identify your child who just committed suicide because they couldn't take it anymore.

This isn't an attack towards anyone nor is it about lying blame on any one person or group. We are all responsible. It takes a village. This is as much a wake up call to myself as it is to others.

If you or someone you know has been a victim of cyber bullying, then there are lots of places you turn to for help. For more information on what cyber bullying is and how to get help if you or someone you know has been a victim of cyber bullying, then please check out the following sites:


STOP cyberbulling
Cyberbullying Research Center
Cyberbullying.org

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author avatar Melissa Dawn
14th Mar 2011 (#)

I've written extensively on this subject and it was great to find another writer doing the same. You have a great article here!

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author avatar Rathnashikamani
14th Mar 2011 (#)

Very good tips Dafeenah,
Thank you for this page.

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author avatar Songbird B
14th Mar 2011 (#)

Great share as always, Dafeenah...Thank you so much for this...It is really informative....

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author avatar rajaryanme
14th Mar 2011 (#)

A fantastic article.

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author avatar Jerry Walch
14th Mar 2011 (#)

My grand children know how to handle face to face bullies--I'm teaching them Martial Arts. Cyber bullying require other techniques and this articles makes many good points on the subject.

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author avatar Denise O
17th Mar 2011 (#)

I watched my brother (me to a certain degree) get bullied in school. My older brother is menatlly challenged and the cruel things kids would say and do was just awful. Needless to say, I was always in trouble as I had to protect my brother. The sad thing was, even the teachers turned a blind eye to this injustice. I have also been cyber bullied some years back. I just ignored all the emails and blocked them. But in saying that, I can just imagine how this could hurt a child. So sad. Also one more thing, I wish more parents would open their eyes to their kids being bullies but, usually the kids had learned it from them to start off with. Nice read about a very hurtful and sad subject. Thank you for sharing.:)

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author avatar darciefrench
19th Mar 2011 (#)

I've seen online bullies who gain support by falsely claiming to be the victims.. wondering if you have too?

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author avatar Dafeenah
19th Mar 2011 (#)

Online and offline.

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