Clearing the Emotions
By C.D. Moore, 17th Jun 2014 | Follow this author
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How to Move Emotions that have Become Uncomfortably Stuck.
Feelings
Feelings are part of being human. They are our internal colours; red, blue, yellow, black.
A rainbow of emotions is ours. Like notes in a symphony, they give depth range and meaning to our experience.They add to the richness and variety of life.
Unless they get stuck. Then even a good emotion can become unhealthy,blocking the natural flow of feeling.
Culture
In today's society there is little room or tolerance for emotion. We feel embarrassed to cry in public. Children are told to be quiet when they are only expressing their natural joy. So we learn to control ourselves and to fear emotion as if it was the enemy.
We hold our breath or breath very shallowly to keep the energy of an emotion from surfacing, thereby trapping it in our body where it becomes unconscious but capable of causing symptoms and disease.
Thought Creates Emotions
Emotions are created by a thought or pattern of thinking. A story we tell ourselves, sometimes a habitual one we retell ourselves and others over and over. The story we tell comes out of our past and reveals our beliefs about ourselves, others and life. Habitual stories create habitual emotions. Fine if the story is a happy one, but not so good if negative because the story tends to lock the emotion in place causing mental and emotional suffering.Depression is caused by keeping a lid on an unwanted emotion for so long that the subject becomes numb and unable to feel a thing. How do we keep the lid on? By staying busy, by distracting ourselves with entertainment, drinking, substance abuse,etc.
Feelings are like the Weather
Normally feelings are like the weather. They come and go fairly rapidly from one minute, hour or day to the next and that is not a problem. But when we resist feeling them they get stuck and no one wants a rainy day every day or even a sunny one. Balance is the key in nature and we are no different. Most people are afraid of feeling deeply because it requires a giving up of control and they fear how they might look to others. But there is a very simple method of moving the energy of emotion in complete privacy and safety.
Clearing an Emotion
Sit in a quiet, private place and hold the intention of feeling the emotion,say sadness to the bottom. Locate the sensation in your body which corresponds to the emotion. Place your hand on that spot, say the throat, to help you focus. Breathe normally and just let any thoughts or feeling come up and be there. Embrace them, but don't hang onto any stories.
Just feel the emotion and let yourself cry if you need to. Stay with the feeling until it is gone. And don't hold your breath because that will keep the feeling from moving.
If you have been holding into your feelings for a long time they may be layered. Releasing one , you may find another underneath but it is the same process. Just keep going until you feel clear. After the repressed emotions are released, your energy will start to flow; you will know yourself better better; and feelings will come and go naturally. like clouds in the sky.
So let us embrace all our emotions, even the so called negative ones. They are all a part of our humanness and as long as we take responsibility for them and stop justifying them with stories we will do no harm to ourselves or others.
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17th Jun 2014 (#)
Wow Steve! Thank you so much.
That's the fastest ever!
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17th Jun 2014 (#)
Awesome article C.D. Thank you.
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18th Jun 2014 (#)
Your comment is much appreciated Steve!
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18th Jun 2014 (#)
well written, simply put, so easy to follow and understand.
Well done!
Great article, C. D. Moore
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18th Jun 2014 (#)
Very kind Spirited. I very much enjoy your articles too!
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18th Jun 2014 (#)
I learned something very important from this article, which is not to repress or control feelings so they'll not accumulate within. Good advice for the health I guess so. Keep up!
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18th Jun 2014 (#)
I'm so glad it was helpful n.c.
I wish you very good health!
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18th Jun 2014 (#)
Awesome and one of a kind post, cheers!
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18th Jun 2014 (#)
Thank you so much Fern!
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18th Jun 2014 (#)
Wow! Excellent article & so true how our health can be directly impacted by our emotions. And fantastic advice on how to let go of all those repressed emotions. I'm going to give it a try. I know I can definitely use it! Thanks!
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18th Jun 2014 (#)
So glad it was helpful. Let me know how it goes.
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19th Jun 2014 (#)
Fine post that serves as a guide
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19th Jun 2014 (#)
Thank you Madan!
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19th Jun 2014 (#)
World goes round and before we know it colors of summer are replaced by winter's harsh colors. Like the diamonds need light to sparkle, ideas need words. Nice article Ms Moore.
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19th Jun 2014 (#)
You are a poet Snerfu!
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20th Jun 2014 (#)
Thanks for your inspirational article, I agree that many of us "fight" against feeling deeply and/or showing how deep emotions, we do not want to get hurt
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20th Jun 2014 (#)
Yes, feelings make us feel vulnerable, but they also help us make deep connections with others, when expressed responsibly. Risky, maybe, but potentially greatly rewarding.
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20th Jun 2014 (#)
Thank you for your comment Wogiam!
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20th Jun 2014 (#)
Very well explained!
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30th Jun 2014 (#)
Thanks,SauravBanerjee!
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21st Jun 2014 (#)
I'm very much impressed with this post. You have done a great job here. Thanks
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30th Jun 2014 (#)
Very kind, Sukkran
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29th Jun 2014 (#)
Simply put but profound in the message conveyed, thanks C D Moore. I find the elderly folks are also bottling up their emotions especially their loneliness, much against their nature, while the young too get accustomed to not opening up mostly living within closed doors - quite unlike what it was in Asia a generation ago. Sharing and caring are a thing of the past - siva
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30th Jun 2014 (#)
Yes, Siva we connect best through sharing emotions. it's worth the vulnerable feeling.
Your comment is much appreciated.
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2nd Jul 2014 (#)
A good post. One should not suppress one's emotions, not even anger/ They should be vented at an appropriate time. Here, time is the operative word.
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3rd Jul 2014 (#)
I agree. Thanks GV.
At the appropriate time and not at anyone.
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7th Jul 2014 (#)
Great article, no wonder you got a star for it.
I totally agree with GVRamaRao, emotions should be set free, at the right times, in the right ways.
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7th Jul 2014 (#)
Thanks for visiting and commenting Brendamarie
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7th Jul 2014 (#)
Very good article Moore.
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26th Jul 2014 (#)
Great article I agree with you that
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7th Jul 2014 (#)
Thanks Souvik?
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22nd Sep 2014 (#)
wonderful article very helpful.
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22nd Sep 2014 (#)
Thanks, Mandy!
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13th Feb 2017 (#)
I like how you interpret emotions... nice article
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