Diagnoze: Introvert

Linda Poitras By Linda Poitras, 4th Nov 2016 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/4nvtt9g3/
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This morning I am talking about my diagnosis Introvert and how I dealt with it.

Good Morning Everyone ...

Today I'm coming out of the closet sorta speak.

You ever go to a party and there is that one person who is so charismatic that people are drawn to there like moth to a flame? Yea ... me too. That's not me!

I have a little confession to make. I'm an introvert.

Here's how I found out

A friend and I used to go to the gym on the island. The moment she walked in, people came to her and she talked to everybody and I would leave her to start my workout. No one noticed.

Why did you go? she asked

I don't know them and didn't want to stand there like a bump on a log so I left, I replied

How will you make friends if you don't go to people? she asked

I had no answer. Actually I had a few but none came out of my mouth so I just looked at her with a blank look, shaking my head and shrugging my shoulders.

"You are such an introvert!"

<BAM> Just like that. There I sat looking at her wanting to laugh but just choked it in instead.

It's the funniest thing, she made it sound like it was such a bad thing, Funnier still, I didn't even know what that word meant so when I got home I ran to my computer to look it up lol.

There it was. I was diagnosed. I have introvert. Now, what's the cure?

So people thought I was cold, unapproachable, uninterested and quiet? I understood why! Honestly though, I wasn't. I'm not shy and I'm really not an anti-social, I talk! HA HA! Yes I talk to people, not just my dogs! There are people that I feel I can engage in a conversation with or don't feel odd with. I just hadn't found one there yet.

Sounds bad saying that, doesn't it? Not really! I was just assessing my surroundings before engaging. I am just a person that prefers quality over quantity.

I know a lot of people but don't do social gathering much. My motto was, get invited once, miss it. Get invited twice, forget it. Get invited a third time, go kicking a screaming and have a panic attack on the way there but get there. It'll pass and you'll end up enjoying yourself half way through.

That's no joke!

I'm the oldest of 3

My brother was an out going guy who was into sports and parties, he was in a band for years. Loved it. Mind you he was very talented. He played drums, guitar: acoustic and electric, sax, clarinet, trumpet, to name a few AND he could sing to boot. Yea ... not me at all.

My baby sister? 12 years younger than me and she was the wild child. Party animal, gangs, always going out to the bars, clubs, having more friends than she knew what to do with, and everybody wanted to be around her. She was so out there she was almost too out there. A guy honked at her and she would blink to distort her face and I would laugh thinking I wish I could do that.

I grew up

Of course, I grew up. I'm still an introvert but my social skills improved some. Moving to another country and having to fend for myself saw to it I did. I didn't have much choice.

It wasn't easy. I speak french and English and neither were spoken in my new country. I had to learn Spanish.

There were days when no one understood a word that came out of my mouth except me. lol Everybody would look at me like I had 10 heads as I spoke and I'd ask myself, "how much clearer can I get, I'm not speaking Chinese here!" So I would find another way to say what I needed to get across and the more I talked the more head tilts I would get! At some point I'd get angry. They couldn't understand me yet when I was angry talking, all of a sudden I was understood clearly! I had to learn to speak up. SO... I did in all 3 languages lol. Seriously though, those days burnt me out mentally.

I realized something ...

Introverts get a bad rap. We are seen as people lacking strong personality. Well, being humble, having empathy, genuinely caring for others are important qualities that any strong person should have.

We can be a quiet bunch but we listen, we pay attention, we notice, we don't look for fame. We just need to learn to speak up, take action, be present and get out of our head.

It's not hard to get attention. We are so invisible most times that when we speak, we have something to say, and that shocks the crap out of people. We just have to make it count.

We appreciate small groups which isn't a bad thing. Too many times there are so many people around you don't even get to see everybody. For me? If I can't see them why invite them? Theory behind this? When there are too many, how can you appreciate one without neglecting another!?!

There's nothing wrong with being an introvert. I like my solitude. I am however very willing to open the door to good friends and good company. I'm just picky about who I let in! lol

After all, I'm from the country! lol

Song of the day

Ok ... my pick of the day is a song from Tracy Byrd - I'm From The Country ... take a moment to enjoy the song while you finish your coffee.

Well folks, time to head out, I wish you all a great day. Be good to one another and don't take your freedom for granted because it's not a given for everyone to do so.

And SMILE! ... you're on life's candid camera!

Tags

Introvert, Introvert Personality, Introverts, Misjudged

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author avatar Linda Poitras
I was born and raised in Montreal, Quebec. In 2004 I married my American Mr. Man and 2 years later we moved to isla Margarita, Venezuela

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