Facebook friends are not real.

SilentWriter By SilentWriter, 8th Jul 2010 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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Don't trust everyone that you might makes friends with on social networking websites!

Not friends.

Most young people and adults use Facebook, or some other kind of social neetworking website. Some people spend their lives online, watching what other people do and say, what they think, and what they’re about. On facebook, you can have up to 5000 friends, but how many people can say that they know that many people in person? Not many, I bet. Yet so many people stay in instead of going out, simply to sit online and see what their “friends” are up to.

A lot of people see this as a competition. The more friends you have, the more popular you are. This is not the case in reality though, and so many people are becoming obsessed with the number of people who wish to be friends with them online that it is becoming a problem.

What’s the danger in this? Apart from the obvious like individuals not having any real friends, they risk being completely socially excluded from “offline” activities. Also, if they’re sitting on a computer all day, they run the risk of becoming overweight, which could have a significant impact upon their general day to day state of health.

Schoolwork can also suffer. With the temptation of the internet so great, many people are not putting the time into their studies, and sitting on the computer talking to people who aren’t really that close to them, compeltely wasting their valuable time. Schools all over the world are blocking these websites from the computers, as students cannot even spend the six hours of the school day without checking their profile to see if anyone has replied to them.

To stop this, the amount of time that a child is allowed to spend on the internet should be monitored right from the moment they’re old enough to use a computer. If you allow them an hour per night, then they will get used to this. But you have to be strong; if you make the boundaries flexible, they will recognise this and know that you can be pushed. Treat it as a reward rather than a right. Allow them their hour once they’ve completed their school work, or if it’s during the holidays when they don’t have any, done something around the house for you instead.

This will only work for you if you stay strong. You know the dangers; don’t let your child make mistakes.

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I am a 21 year old girl doing a degree in Psychology :-).

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author avatar Synthaea
9th Jul 2010 (#)

Love it, and total agreement despite the fact that I spend an inordinate amount of time on the internet. :/

Also quite ironic given that a message from you sent via your Facebook group encouraged me to join this site. ;)

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author avatar SilentWriter
9th Jul 2010 (#)

Yes it is quite ironic :) However I do only add people I actually know onto my personal profile ;)

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author avatar satan fury
9th Jul 2010 (#)

Love it. I am glad that someone wrote this article because I have been thinking of writing on this topic for a long time. Facebook is a good networking tool, but it can ruin relationships no matter how much trust and love you have for your partner. men and women reconnect with people from their past and play it off that they are only friends. Social networking sites gives others the flexibility to engage in cheating.

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author avatar Mr Arrogant
9th Jul 2010 (#)

Felt good reading your article

great work done!

Thanks for the share!

Will look forwards for more articles like this from you ! So will be visiting your page for other good articles like this one!

Regards,
Mr Arrogant

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author avatar Claerwyn Anwylaeth
9th Jul 2010 (#)

I concur. Facebook definitely presents certain dangers, especially with relationships. It provides another channel for obsessive behaviour, as well as this "it's not official unless it's Facebook official" marker of a relationship. However, if used in moderation, this site can provide a benefit in communication with people you cannot otherwise communicate with - friends who are very long distance.

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author avatar Melissa Dawn
9th Jul 2010 (#)

Hmm I have been known to spend too long on fb. BUt as a writer my friends are all people I know who I network with. Good article and good points.

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author avatar JD
24th Jul 2010 (#)

You're right on point. I used to spend too much time on FB. Mainly playing games. After adding a bunch of friends I haven't seen or talked to in years I realized why I hadn't seen or talked to them. I probably only have about 5 real friends on FB

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author avatar Denise O
31st Dec 2010 (#)

I am so happy my kids are grown and I didn't have to deal with facebook.
I am on it but, I seldom use it.
I just do not care if someone just watched a certain movie or they loved the piece of pizza they just ate.
Thank you for sharing.:)

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author avatar Rathnashikamani
17th Apr 2011 (#)

Very enlightening article with good suggestions.
Thank you SilentWriter.

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