Feeling deeply what another person is feeling is compassionate empathy

spirited By spirited, 11th Sep 2014 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/35tq12sh/
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Empathy and compassion are both related to love.

This article explores this connection, and finds that the path of empathy is compassionately lighted by love.

Relating to others in a more caring way

Empathy is a way of relating to others by your identifying the feelings that they are feeling, and then feeling them deeply within your own self.

Perhaps, you have once gone through a somewhat similar experience to what this person is now going through. This then can enable you to pinpoint more exactly the nature of what this other person is experiencing.

For example, if your favourite Uncle died a few years ago, you can go back to this time in your mind, and so better understand your friend's present loss of his own father.

If you care about the person a lot, this becomes easier for you to do. You cannot emphasise fully with another person unless you have at some point felt this emotion within yourself.

This is one reason why we should never stifle or block our emotions. We should always endeavour to feel them completely.

When you can find an identical feeling within you as which this person is feeling now, you will relate to their feelings much better then too.

Compromise in the sense of being flexible

Compromising with another person is a sign that you are approaching them from the side of love.

When you do this, it opens the heart of the other person, and the door is then opened wider for forward movement through cooperation between the both of you.

Compromise allows movement from fixation, or from a fixed position.

Compromise allows enables empathy to be spread, which allows love to still maintain a connection between all parties.

"Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive."

This quote from the Dalai Lama shows just how important both of these qualities really are.

Poetry: Compassion and love are related

Compassion in a fashion is only love.
Love looking compassionately at others.
Others being compassionate to you.
Compassion is a form of loving others.
Compassion is giving them loving attention.
Compassion is understanding. This is compassion.


Compassion is never allowed to be itself,
when it's not subordinated to love.
Love and compassion are sisters in craft,
and compassionately loving,
allows loving compassion.
Compassion allows love. This is compassion.


Compassion is dying to greed, and yourself,
and thinking intently on the other's life.
You love so much, that you help them to be.
Compassionate caring is never interfering,
but being you, for them to be them to be me.
Compassion lives for love. This is compassion.


Truth is compassionate loving of itself.
All truth is truthful.
All love is compassionate.
Truth teaches compassion,
Love gives, and practices it.
Compassion understands love. This is compassion.


Compassion is subordinated to love,
when it allows love to compassionately,
live though itself.
Compassion understands love,
and allows love to show compassion.
Compassion is conscious of others. This is compassion.


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Compassion, Dealing With Others Feelings, Empathising With Others, Empathy, Feeling, Feelings, Relating To Others

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I have been interested in the spiritual fields for over thirty five years now. My writing is mostly in this area.

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author avatar Fern Mc Costigan
11th Sep 2014 (#)

Awesome post mate, cheers!

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author avatar spirited
11th Sep 2014 (#)

thanks Fern!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
11th Sep 2014 (#)

Well highlighted, Spirited. Even predatory animals like lions show compassion. If only we had more of empathy and compassion and use them to solve our issues our world will be just different. We think might is right and thus perpetrate our misery - siva

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author avatar spirited
11th Sep 2014 (#)

Very true what you say siva, a lot of problems would be solved if we had more compassion, empathy, and genuine connection to others.

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author avatar Phyl Campbell
11th Sep 2014 (#)

Love and compassion are so important. There is a time for love and tough love, but if someone shows compassion instead, I cannot fault them for it, and often love them for it.

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author avatar spirited
11th Sep 2014 (#)

yes thanks Phyl, compassion is always tender.

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author avatar Stella Mitchell
12th Sep 2014 (#)

Yes spirited ..
Compassionate people ...
Put their money where their mouth is ..
Their feet where the need is ...and
their heart where the pain is ....
Bless you today
Stella ><

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author avatar RBB1010
15th Sep 2014 (#)

Such a beautiful and true article, I wish all the world could believe and live by, thanks.

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author avatar spirited
15th Sep 2014 (#)

thanks for your high appreciation, RBB1010

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