Integrity, Character, Chaos, Feelings, and the Winding Way to Freedom

pndrgn99 By pndrgn99, 10th Jun 2013 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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How identity and Character are interrelated, Why character can be the corruption of identity. How too decide when you have to make choices.

A Little Bit of Background

In my own effort to understand things, I began my search by looking at the origins of words to see what they meant and how they were used before modern times. This study, Etymology, (not to be confused with Entomology which is the study of bugs), is the study of words, their origins and the evolution of their meaning and use. following the development of language is a good way to see what people who lived long ago based words on and what value they placed on each. Take the word Integer for example. The Online Dictionary of Etymology relates that, from Latin around 1500, the meanings attributed to integer were; "whole, complete," figuratively, "untainted, upright," literally "untouched," The word Integrity circa 1400 denoted: "innocence, blamelessness; chastity, and purity. The word Integrity is an evolution of both the prefix in- and Tangere' (to touch). To shorten my explanation, let me explain that tangent originally meant "to touch gently". A composite search of several language origins reveals that Integrity canhe be traced back to "in touch with the one whole" or identical with the whole.

The word Character, again from Etymology online is defined (circa mid 1300's) as: "symbol marked or branded on the body;" mid-15c., "symbol or drawing used in sorcery," from Old French caratere "feature, character" (13c., Modern French caractère), from Latin character, from Greek kharakter "engraved mark," also "symbol or imprint on the soul,".

By contrast today's definition from Merriam Webster free online is: "The mental and moral qualities distinctive to an individual". This somewhat simpler definition tells us that our character is our unique moral and mental fingerprint or identity. Great, without goals or the polar opposites of good and evil the discussion would be at an end. If it were, no one would be looking for meaning or unsure of their identity. The older words tell us that character is the result of sorcery of engraving marks on the integrity of the soul, or the pure state in which we are created. How do we make decisions and which decisions create what marks. In fact what we need now is a map to guide us in creating our own identities. This is where all of this detail becomes worth reading. As we develop character, our choices and actions engrave a symbol on our souls. Likened to sorcery the acts of choice, or will, create these marks and endow us with character. Now, for the prize, put identity, integrity and character together.

Map Making for Identity With Feelings For Road Signs.

If you started about five pages before this then you remember me talking about feelings and their relationship to identity. So, lets add courageous to our character and consider the idea that our feeling responses to life are, until obscured by the way we intellectualize them (stop feeling and think about them), our guide to choosing our character. Each of us has some specific moments that have already defined us in powerful ways. What we do or don't do in each choice marks us. How many of us have been shamed by a bully, or by peer pressure? How many transformed by a moment of courage in which we refused to accept powerlessness, control by others, or abuse? In the course of the first twenty five years of our lives we build picture of the world in our minds and relate to that world in ways that we choose. we strive for a balance between acceptance (inclusion or the acceptance of group standards) and differentiation (the pursuit of unique qualities that have meaning for us). The problems occur when we begin to compromise what we feel is true to obtain one or more of the only three things that we can possess; money (or assets), sex (intimacy) and time (literally he time we have to live). If obtaining approval, acceptance, employment, or someones time (company) leads us to act in ways that (if we felt them) we would acknowledge as; wrong, hurtful, immoral, demeaning, dishonest or dishonorable, cowardly, or untrue, then e have engraved marks on our souls that are in conflict with and obscure our identity replacing it with a false identity that does not lead to ourselves. We get lost in our own false identities and then have no sense of fulfillment, satisfaction, or meaning. We become more empty by erasing the directions that were outlined in our integrity and are unable to find our way back because we have erased the feelings that could have guided us there. In the same way emoticons translate responses in e-mails, giving us information to help us understanding the speaker's feelings and the direction of the conversation, feelings in our bodies give us information to guide us in understanding our direction in life.

Anybody willing yet?

In each section I have requested that readers make an effort to observe their feelings for periods of time. Just to pay attention to the fact hat these feelings exist. So far I haven't heard from anyone concerning their efforts if any, or their responses. I have tried to limit myself to a basic explanation of the power of feeling and the process necessary for the realization of identity. It all begins with one word. Yes or no are the choices. Yes, i do want to feel this, it is who I am or No I don't want this it is not who I am. So, I'll be repairing the washer and doing other work. When i check in again I'll either begin a discussion with anyone who cares to explore these ideas or start a new discussion.
Be well.

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Character, Development, Etymology, Guidence, Healing, Identity, Information Technology, Integrated, Integrity, Language, Unity, Whole, Words

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CEO and owner of business concerns in the Industrial instrumentation field, followed by a career change, returned to college for an MA psych then 20 years in mental health & correctional counseling.

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