Momma's Day

Linda Poitras By Linda Poitras, 9th Oct 2016 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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My remembrance day ... tribute to my Momma. Instead of remembering her passing ... I celebrate her life.

Good Morning Everybody ...

On September 25th, 2003, my beautiful momma lost her battle with cancer.

I guess I could remember the day I lost her but instead I choose to remember her life. I started doing this 8 years ago to remember her instead of her cancer.

My Momma ...

My momma was to be a woman of great strength. She personified love. The unconditional kind. She was an abused child at the hand of her mother.

You know the funniest thing about my momma was that she tried to buy her mother's affection and always failed and because of that she gave her children all the love she had.

No matter how many times we failed and disappointed her, she loved us. She used to tell me: "You are my daughter, no matter what you say, no matter what you do, no matter what happens, no matter what ... I will always love you." and she did.

Today ...

Today, I want to remember her life. Her kindness, her generosity, her soul. The days she's wake us up with music, singing and dancing her way to our bedrooms to wake us up. The days we'd be blasting music, dancing and singing as we did chores around the house. The sacrifices and compromises she did for us...

Moments to remember ...

when I was 5 years old, my mom and I were watching Jacques Cousteau show. He was with whales and dolphins. I wanted so much to see that up close. Back in the day when I wanted to be a writer, an oceanologist, and marry a pirate lol. Well one day my momma thought it would be fun to go to La Ronde, which to my American friends is like Busch Garden? A huge amusement park with roller coaster, Ferris Wheel and all. There was also a section with animals. Well, we went into this building where they had a dolphin show. So me in my wheel chair, was rolled in and carried to a seat. Oh my God, I was seeing dolphins up close. At the end of the show my momma went to speak to the man at the pool and he came to see me.

"You want to see the dolphins up close?" he asked me. I was awe struck. I remember not being able to speak. He picked me up and brought me to the side of the pool that was clear through. The dolphin came to the glass. lol I was scared because it was bigger than I had thought lol. He put me down in front of the dolphin and I put my hand on the glass. The dolphin put her nose where my hand was. The man told me the dolphin's name was Linda and I looked up at him and said: "that's my name too." and I just stared at the dolphin like she was the greatest thing on earth.

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I remember one day when I was about 6 years old, I wanted to meet Scott Hamilton. He was coming to Montreal to do an Ice Folies. Of course, we didn't have the money to go. My mom started a little business of doing other people's laundry and sewing to get enough money to get us all there. At the end of the show, she even got Scott Hamilton to sign y Folies booklet.

My family wasn't rich.

My dad was over overtime to bring in money because back in the days we didn't have the free health care we have now. My momma was a stay home and my dad worked. Most of the expenses went on health care for me. I had a tumor in my head, behind my sinus, so it wasn't cheap. I did get operated on about 2 weeks after the Folies on a hospital strike day.

My momma was a miracle worker. She wanted us to know how much she loved us. We never wondered.

It was funny ...

as much as she wanted us to know and remember her love for us, when she was dying, she was afraid we'd forget her. Crazy! Who could forget a momma who gave so much without a second thought.

So I am remembering. It is better to remember the good days then to remember her passing although as I've mentioned I can't forget her passing either because she isn't here for me to hug, to hold, to hear, to smell, to see. I will never hear the words "I love you" from her again. I can never go home just to get a hug of comfort again. I can never call her on the phone to tell her this great thing that just happened. She will never see me grow.

So here's the deal.

I never took my momma for granted. I told her I loved her more times than I can remember and yet I wish I could tell her one more time just in case she doesn't know.

So, remember your parents. They aren't there forever.

Call them.

Take time to go see them. Buy out time is you must.

It's a good investment. So don't wait, tomorrow is not given to everybody. Call them if only for a minute to let them know how much they mean to you. Call them today! It's a painful thing to wake up in the morning wish you could and knowing you can't. It's even worse when you realized all the opportunities you could have had but failed to take them because you had more important things to do.

My song of the day ...

I have more than one.

My mom and I had 2 songs:

1- You Needed Me -- Anne Murray
2- You And Me Against The World -- Hellen Reddy

This is a song I post last year on Momma's day.

1- I know you lived -- Angie Broberg
2- Nat King Cole and Natalie Cole -- Unforgetable

You can look them all up ... but for today ... Because I wish I could tell my momma "I Love You Momma" and hear "I Love You Baby"

I choose this song:

You And Me Against The World -- Hellen Reddy

Think Pink ...

This month is cancer awareness month. I lost my beautiful momma to cancer. It affects us all one way or another.

Support the cause and raise awareness! Please!

Pink Ribbon (Official Website) International Breast Cancer ... http://www.pinkribbon.com/


I wish you all a good day. Be good to one another and don't take your freedom for granted because it's not a given for everyone to do so.

Don't forget ... Smile ... you're on life's candid camera!


What are you still doing here??? Go call now!!!

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author avatar Linda Poitras
I was born and raised in Montreal, Quebec. In 2004 I married my American Mr. Man and 2 years later we moved to isla Margarita, Venezuela

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author avatar Retired
11th Oct 2016 (#)

Great post! My mom also lost similar battle, at that month and year.

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author avatar Linda Poitras
11th Oct 2016 (#)

So sorry to read that Carmen. It's not easy ... whatever the reason.

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author avatar Lady Aiyanna
11th Oct 2016 (#)

Sorry for your loss. May her soul rest in peace knowing that you are following your dream with her values and teachings that shines for a lifetime. She shines through you and you always have her alive as you are her daughter.
Now stop abusing me or you are showing she didn't teach you anger management.

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author avatar Linda Poitras
14th Oct 2016 (#)

I'm abusing you?

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