Positive thinking, negative thinking, or just thinking. What's the difference anyway?

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I get sick and tired of people telling me that I am a negative thinker.

Compared to who, I ask them?

"Why don't I embrace positive thoughts?" they will ask me next.

"We all just think. I have never had a negative thought in my life, nor have I ever had a positive one," I reply.

I just have thoughts!

You can call them, or label them in any way you like. I will still think the thoughts that I think.

Here are a few of my thoughts!

Should we try to alter our thoughts in any way, or not?

Some people will sometimes tell us to try to change all of our thoughts to positive ones. We should use our conscious mind to change the thoughts that we are receiving neutrally, into positive ones.

We should try to separate the sheep from the goats then, when the truth is that both of these animals are really forever our friends.

What is truth?

Truth is merely the indispensableness of love being given out from love,
whereas non-truth is anything else being given from non-love.

It is impossible of course for love not to love fully, perfectly, as otherwise, it is not really real love.

God is that love, but we, as his creation with our free will, have the
choice to make whether we love as God does, or whether we choose to love in our own way.

We are learning how to better do this with each new lesson that love gives to us.

Here are a few quotes that I have come across recently.

“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” ~ Rumi

"Don't be concerned that you may make a fatal choice, because there aren't any of those. Your Inner Being is always guiding you. You are always finding balance. It is a never ending process.’’ ~ Abraham-Hicks

"The gem cannot be polished without friction nor can man be perfected without trials." ~ Chinese Proverb

These types of statements appear true on their first reading, but why would something already balanced need to find further balance?

Why would oneness wound itself in a part of itself, so its light could enter that part? Is that part being restricted from receiving its light otherwise?

Why are lessons, wounding, learning, growth, self-growth, etc. considered necessary for something or any part of it (oneness) that just is, and so is really already complete already to itself, and within itself?

I will attempt to answer these questions in the next section.

The answers are found in the found. Finding answers

The emptiness was filled from the fullness of itself, and only then did the emptiness realise its fullness. It was already full without it knowing it!

And so it is all really essentially just about such realisation of course.

You are perfect and fully complete right now, but when you think that you are not, you are wounded by that thought in a way, and the healing process will then begin, because the light then re-enters you at the wound, where it has been previously blocked off from entering, by your freedom of choice not to work from the light, but from your own shadow.

In this way, the light is always acting to bring you back into it, in order to get you to see that shadows are not fearful, but merely represent your position in oneness, when you stand still as yourself within it, and try to hold onto yourself, instead of just observing yourself moving freely in association with the rest of oneness, as it is pursuing whatever it is pursuing.

Give yourself up to oneness, and all is oneness again for you, once more again.

On the other hand though, there is some truth to these ideas too, as indicated in the quotes that I have quoted here, above.

The folding over of the envelope of life to stick it up with livingness requires the concept of life being more than real to be real. If life is not seen from its bigger picture screen, you live a small and selfishly “me, me, me” only life, instead of seeing that all is forever connected on the grander scale, and yet it all remains disconnected too, at one and the same time.

This continual connection and disconnection astounds the mind because it wants the security of stabilisation remaining intact, whereas as love itself is never stable in this way, but only stable from the oneness perspective.

The other aspects of love individually rendered in each person or soul is unstable and needs to be bolstered by continued experiencing of the love moving through it because it is this movement that keeps the connection intact to oneness.

"Whenever I'm confused about something, I ask God to reveal the answers to my questions, and he does."

This quote is from the American singer/songwriter Beyonce Knowles

A dream of mine to illustrate all of this

I was dreaming that I was in a large outdoor classroom with other people, with a lady teacher.

I got my hairbrush out of my bag to brush my hair with, and I noticed that it was very dirty, matted with old hair, and with other gunk besides. I pulled some of this out by hand, then I flew to a tap, where a man (seemingly standing by, guarding its use) showed me how to turn it on, which you had to use a special method to do it, as water was scarce in this area. The people there didn't want it to be wasted, it seemed. I washed my brush there.

This showed me that the head of anything is not necessarily me. I am not always in charge of all things, and yet at the same time, I do have access to all things.

The head becomes the bottom, when it wants to be head, but the head remains the head, when it was the head to begin with. We merely must remain ourselves, and not try to be something, we are not. All of these positions have been allocated to various souls, even as Jesus was quoted as saying in the Christian bible.

This quote comes from Saint Matthew's gospel, chapter 20, verse 23.

Jesus said to them, "You will indeed drink from my cup, but to sit at my right or left is not for me to grant. These places belong to those for whom they have been prepared by my Father."

Every part of God's kingdom is allocated out. A part must be the part they have been assigned to be. You must be the person you were created to be. You must play your rightful part in God's play.

It is interesting to note that just before the quoted verse above, Jesus told a parable in which it is said,

"the last will be first, and the first will be last."

This verse comes from the same gospel of Saint Matthew, and is from chapter 20, verse 16.

This is always so, that is if you do not accept your own position. Be yourself, and let others be themselves!

An explanation of this in a poem

Positivity and negativity come from our labelling of Love as so.

Positive thinking is not just about thinking,
it's all more about having an attitude, not sinking.
Thoughts themselves are neither good, nor bad,
it's the attitude behind them, with which they're clad.

What you think, you are responsible for,
your attitude colours your thoughts, with its dots.
On the other hand, thoughts are only badly coloured,
when your attitude is disconnected from your heart.

Otherwise, thoughts are simply only just thoughts,
neither positive or negative, they just reflect love.
Every thought is good, and a positive one, in its way,
when you attach the positiveness of love to it.

Optimism comes alive through good attitudes,
attached to your thoughts. Enjoy all things.
When everything is seen from the positive side,
the negative just provides contrast, right alongside.

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author avatar Fern Mc Costigan
6th Nov 2015 (#)

Lots of useful and interesting content my dear Spirited. I enjoy reading your posts and learn a lot and meditate too!

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author avatar spirited
6th Nov 2015 (#)

thanks Fern

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author avatar brendamarie
6th Nov 2015 (#)

Spirited, great article, I love reading your work because it always makes me think.

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author avatar spirited
7th Nov 2015 (#)

thanks brendamarie.

I hope you are thinking with your heart as well as your mind about it too...LOL>>>

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author avatar Carol Roach
6th Nov 2015 (#)

excellent, I don't see how anyone can think that you are negative at all

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author avatar spirited
7th Nov 2015 (#)

thanks Carol,

Well, my brothers, my father, my wife, they all say I am negative, but then they don't understand me either.

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author avatar Retired
7th Nov 2015 (#)

Spirited, you work gets better and better as you continue to explore what love is. A Course in Miricles states that there are only two basic responses: Love or fear. You have shown that Love is the better way. Thank you, yet again.

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author avatar Retired
7th Nov 2015 (#)

*A Course in Miracles*

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author avatar spirited
7th Nov 2015 (#)

Thanks Christopher,

A Course in Miracles also said that of these two (love and fear), only love is real.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
7th Nov 2015 (#)

Thanks Spirited, I like to air my approach without sounding being in an exalted, rarefied, position.

Positive and negative thinking is in a way like economic news which in the final analysis is just news.

When interest rates go up or down it is just news. If you are having surplus money it favors when it goes up while if one is a borrower then need to pay more though I follow the Bard in this case - neither a borrower nor a lender be!

If exchange rate goes up, it benefits the importer as the goods become cheaper; if it goes down the exporter benefits as he can do more business when goods become cheaper for foreign buyers.

I like to go through the phases without flinching and try to come out unscathed after an ordeal but learn the lessons. What does not kill makes us stronger and so why worry - just accept life - we should maintain equanimity as the good and bad alternate.

In the final analysis, we can always learn and not get carried away by vicissitudes of life that are just par for the course. We should be more attuned to the ways of the world than get hot under the collars with daily news which need not be a tightening noose with the right attitude! siva

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author avatar spirited
7th Nov 2015 (#)

thanks siva for your astute observations.

"what doesn't kill you makes you stronger"

"no gain without pain"

But is there really any truth in these types of clichés?

Life, I suspect is really neither hard nor easy. It just is what it is. For each part of that life what it is, is what it is.

The rest is just labels.

These things (sayings or clichés) too are just labelling of various perceived differences between different parts of yours and others experiences. Comparing achieves very little because all comparison holds you to it, so this in its way prevents you in a way from growing past it optimally.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
8th Nov 2015 (#)

I can relate to certain cliches, sayings, adages etc. I have gone through times when my life looked a dead end, but the beauty is when they are past, we feel more confident about ourselves, our abilities, our resoluteness.

Again, few sacrifice all their time in pursuit of wealth - sort of it becomes the be all and end all - and that attitude can be connected with the pain consequent to taking such a path.

It all boils down to the choices we make. I read instances where people ditch their profession, what they spent their time for, and took to becoming own bosses by following latent passion like baking and claim they discovered a spring in their steps.

For me Spirited, I like to understand where others come from and feel more than happy when they rediscover meaning in their lives; that makes me to pause and ponder too - siva

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author avatar spirited
8th Nov 2015 (#)

Thanks for adding your valuable input here siva.

“It all boils down to the choices we make.”

Do we really have choice though, and if so, which part of us makes it?

To me, choice is more an observation, after/before any event, of the different ways you can go in.

The real choice is never made by you in your mind. This just re-assesses situations, and it thinks it chooses, when behind the scenes, the choice is always really being made by your soul. Like with your thinking that you feel thirsty, for example, you then have a drink, and then your thought comes to describe what you think happened.

You do not really think first, the actionable need comes first at all times. Thinking is an illusion. It never achieves anything because of this. Action always exists outside of thought, which just delays/waylays it.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
8th Nov 2015 (#)

I like to think the choice is made from how we balance our physical needs, the mind that decides and also the inner knowing from the soul that prompts our long term path.

Some just follow their bodily needs, others use their mind rather recklessly while few listen deeply to the inner voice.

I like to fall in the last category as I feel we are just on a sojourn here, even a dream if you like - the reality is later when we pass on from this phase - siva

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author avatar spirited
8th Nov 2015 (#)

yes thanks siva, of course I really meant to say that the choice is not being made just by this outer you, but that it should be a balanced choice with input from each part of us, as you point out here above.

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author avatar Kingwell
16th Nov 2015 (#)

Deep thoughts my friend. Some people seem afraid to ask such questions and so either become brainwashed by others or turn to some other pleasure to quiet their thoughts. Blessings.

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author avatar spirited
16th Nov 2015 (#)

thanks Kingwell,

some of us are afraid of the answers too I think. They don't want to be bigger than themselves maybe.

I am a bit like that. I want the answers, but I do not want to believe in any answers that are not the real ones. I would rather just live and die with nothing than to live with a false belief.

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