Prejudices, Emotions and Reason

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We are born with varied passions, emotions, but manage to survive through reasoning and logic. Our Creator is everywhere balancing His act through nature. His is a thankless job of cleaning up after us and providing the basics for our survival. Are we worthy of such love and sacrifice? Can we not move up a notch to become true co-creators?

Prejudices tough to Shake-off

We are all prejudiced, only the degree varies. I have actively fought my inner demons and succeeded in overcoming those that are outright indefensible though I still have my favorites when it comes to sports personalities. I follow certain sports events while I detest few even! When my favorite players, teams lose, I no longer have the urge to follow the event further. Then some people do put me off more by their abrasive behavior though I have gotten over that by taking a view - it takes all sorts to make a world. However, I try to keep them at arm’s length. I have a simple test to understand people; am I happier after meeting them? I have known few who not only make life miserable for others but make sure they do! So my prejudices have reasons though I know now to handle the recalcitrant, the incorrigible. When everything else fails, I make it clear – just leave me alone!

Emotional Creatures

Dale Carnegie said – “When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion”. We are all emotional, but the degree, again, varies according to persons and circumstances. I try to maintain emotional equilibrium as I had learned it pays in the long run. Some blow their top and that shows their lack of control over situations – it also puts off others. Of course, showing the right, positive, emotions is a breath of fresh air. I remember during my younger days my bosses thought giving praise where due was not necessary, but now it is the norm to get the best out of people. We hear of a winning smile, approachable persons without airs etc. as needed qualities to get things done. We remember those who are a pleasure to be with; I recall one for whom all problems are solvable with a smile. Imitation is the best form of flattery – and I have adopted such a style in managing people around me. I cannot say life has been a cakewalk but almost, even without much of a bank balance – I maintain equilibrium of no assets and no liabilities; okay, just to meet my basic needs! I make sure I do not move to the level of greed and ego – do I sound a loser?

Reason for Action

Are our actions based on well thought out reasoning? I make a quick analysis and give benefit of doubt to favor others. That means people do take advantage but I do not worry about this aspect as long as my life is not at stake! If monetarily they benefit, maybe, their needs are more than mine; I admit since I believe in karma I do not lose out anyway as intangibles kick in! I have seen their gain proves momentary, even Pyrrhic, while my rewards are over time, slow release! I walk away from minor bruises, soon healed, and my resolve to keep my head high strengthened once I recover from chastening experiences! I have seen that those trying to gain at other’s cost lose out and realize their folly too late! Standing by reason and principle give us a firm foundation for a secure and fulfilling life.

Balance in Creation

Success is measured by different yardsticks and that way society is kept well oiled. Some are carried away by material possessions while others want to be useful to society by rising to the occasion to be of service to those in need. Wealth may stroke our ego but attracts those who are only after the glitter. And those who spend their lives getting richer would like to benefit their immediate families more, while few manage to touch many lives. I would politely say – priorities differ without taking sides! Again it goes to back the statement – it takes all sorts to make a world. We are all wired differently with our Creator mixing us up to perfection. He balances the gender behavior, even numbers, and ingrains within us the passions and emotions for subtle balance to lend variety to the creative process while remaining in the background, though I see Him in the endless variety of nature around us! He is the ultimate balancing master to keep us going – individuals, sometimes, seem not to matter but each is taken care of – a total recall in the end! We will continue to live with our prejudices, emotions though our reasoning powers will triumph in the end to keep us afloat. The day prejudices and emotions run riot, we could perish with few reaching out to nuclear warheads to end it all! Wisdom lies in reining those that are not based on reason.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
1st May 2015 (#)

Thank you Mark for your quick moderation and encouragement through star merit - siva

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author avatar snerfu
1st May 2015 (#)

Siva! You cannot sit on one side of the balance and wait for the creator to come sit on the other. He is too busy defending his meager territory to come find out what is happening in yours.
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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
2nd May 2015 (#)

Thanks Snerfu, what else do we want from our Creator? Has He not bestowed us with everything though some may feel He could have done much better!

Our Creator could well be kept busy by His competitors. We know our atmosphere burns up all coming from outer space - so His/our territory is well protected; we could well be toast otherwise! We have to look after ourselves - we say that to our children though some never grow up (like us)! siva

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author avatar snerfu
2nd May 2015 (#)

It is true Siva, that our culture keeps us safe but we must try to give up our childishness and playful attitude if we can. More than being burnt, living alone is a challenge to many of us.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
2nd May 2015 (#)

Yes Snerfu, we have to grow up and fast too - no time to lose. An idle mind is a devil's workshop and nuclear warheads on empty stomachs is a sure way to our extinction, but does it matter in the end to the creative process - our extinction, I mean, through harakiri? The grass shoots will sprout again over time after the Armageddon!

Living alone is becoming the norm in countries like India with the challenges that go with it though I am reminded of man / woman coexistence - you cannot live with the other/ cannot also live without the other! Yes it boils down to balance in the end - siva

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author avatar Ptrikha
5th May 2015 (#)

It is all about being balanced. Excesses have to be shaked off- whether it be individual lives or lives of nations, or nature, balance gets restored.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
5th May 2015 (#)

Thanks Ptrikha, our prejudices might have reasons behind them but they still punish everyone. I have seen same facts, behavior, from two different people elicit different responses due to our prejudice - some see to get acceptance while others have it not that easy! siva

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author avatar snerfu
1st May 2015 (#)

one thing, A good poke in eye is the best argument against a bully if you can manage it. Don't wait to see if he is crying!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
2nd May 2015 (#)

We can learn from our politicians - no one loses an argument except that the general public is held hostage by them. And then we feel we have only ourselves to blame for electing them!

Bullying is everywhere - give an inch the bully grabs a mile! siva

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author avatar snerfu
2nd May 2015 (#)

It is one thing on the playing field but when the attitude comes into daily life, one must take care not to shake the walls of society too much.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
2nd May 2015 (#)

It becomes a battle of wills everywhere Snerfu, with one blinking to save the situation.

Coexistence, give and take, is the mantra though it is more of one giving and the other taking. We should know our limits unless the Creator chooses to give each of us a planet though we may well find ourselves a frog in the well! siva

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author avatar snerfu
1st May 2015 (#)

He probably doesn't deserve it!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
2nd May 2015 (#)

Are you referring to our Creator or the bully, Snerfu? By the looks of it, nobody deserves us, or is it the other way? siva

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author avatar snerfu
2nd May 2015 (#)

The face in the mirror does not look ugly to me Siva. When it does, it is time to change something, I think.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
2nd May 2015 (#)

With head transplant on the way, the possibilities are endless! We go to our doctor and request - 'I want a head transplant'. He asks ' What is your choice'? We have made the choice from internet, and he assures it is day surgery - out you go in an hour!

But the real change has to come from within. Thanks Snerfu - siva

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author avatar snerfu
1st May 2015 (#)

And remember, vedic mathematics did not begin in America! No wonder they are shooting themselves to death!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
2nd May 2015 (#)

That is not for me to say as I try to be borderless, Snerfu. The closest I can aspire to get to heaven is by moving to America!

China is taken to be a mighty power, dragon, consuming everything in its way but given a choice even their citizens would live in America by hook or crook - I know some give birth there to attain nirvana. Again the headline to this article could be the reason, with logic taking a backseat! siva

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author avatar snerfu
2nd May 2015 (#)

All the best in your aspirations my friend, and hope it happens soon.
America is rich no doubt but the present social environment is hideous to say the least.
It is said that Satan in hell is very anxious because people who were meant to come to hell were now going to America! ha ha, just kidding.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
2nd May 2015 (#)

I have no intention now to go anywhere Snerfu except to the real heaven though my friend, who does everything to get there without fail, has his misgivings - is it really worth all the effort? The "funny" people may not qualify to get there!

I leave your comment with a fond hope that it elicits some brownie points! With reincarnation a possibility, those that detest another country could end up there as also born in the religion that they look down upon! Endless possibilities - never say never! We will cross the bridge when we come to it is my take - siva

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author avatar Kingwell
1st May 2015 (#)

Another good post Siva. How true it is that we are all prejudiced, only the degree varies! We are not born with prejudice we have it thrust upon us. You are doing well my friend. Blessings.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
2nd May 2015 (#)

Thanks Kingwell, we have to break this vicious cycle of prejudice and hatred. We are innocent till we absorb the reality of the adult world! What has happened cannot be undone. Let the dead bury their dead.

The embrace of America and Japan after the "incidents" of the past is a good sign though the China factor could well be the motivating factor! Also America/Cuba - siva

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author avatar spirited
2nd May 2015 (#)

You seem to know a lot about balance siva.

You never let your emotions, thoughts string you out to an extreme position.

This allows you to keep your common sense approach to life, and to allow others the give and take that life require by your not forcing your way onto others.

Your show great respect, patience, and tolerance, and dare I say it love for all around you.

We can only continue to admire the way you handle life, and your approach to it too.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
2nd May 2015 (#)

Thank you Spirited for your motivation - I feel humbled. I like to share from my personal experiences those that have stood me in good stead. I have had a blessed life of hard knocks!

We can change our experiences, perception, with the right attitude. Many are treated like enemies and they become one soon after. I recall a World War 1 veteran ruminating - what for his friends died when a peace treaty is signed after they gave up their lives. We should never allow things to develop to lead to another World War - why keep needling, testing others' resolve? Super powers have more in common except that their politicians divide the people for their selfish ends - for them country comes second unlike for ordinary souls forced to sacrifice their lives.

Balance is at the center of creation with a Master at the wheel to guide us 24/7 forever! Why not be inspired by Him, the least we can do to show our gratitude? siva

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author avatar Retired
2nd May 2015 (#)

I can tell this piece took a lot of work. Thanks for the share!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
2nd May 2015 (#)

Yes it did, thanks Jessica. I try my best to put my best foot forward in my posts as a courtesy to my readers and supporters. It is a pleasure to read the comments I receive and to respond to them too - siva

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author avatar Randhir Bechoo
2nd May 2015 (#)

Thought provoking.Good writing skills.Thanks for your share Siva.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
3rd May 2015 (#)

Thanks Randhir for your support as always - siva

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author avatar Nancy Czerwinski
3rd May 2015 (#)

Siva, excellent article and great comments. I'm going to say something here that some may believe and some may not believe but I'm truly one of the least prejudice people in the world. I see everyone the same and I always have. I think it was a gift from God that I truly treasure. I'm very fortunate person because I do know many people that harbor bad feelings toward many people and I simply do not have that. I'm extremely grateful that I do not. Hatred is a very bad thing and it is why you see so many people suffer illness. We are what we believe. I hope you understood this comment. Blessings to you.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
3rd May 2015 (#)

Thanks Nancy for your frank comments, I appreciate and believe in what you stated. Your posts and comments testify to that.

We are influenced by society around us and when I realized that I deny myself the many blessings of creation I have eschewed all types of prejudices, judgments and jumping to conclusions.

Sadly, even countries are prejudiced and that is reflected in the state of the world we fond ourselves in. The moment we take a view there can only be one Creator, half the battle is won.

We give in easily to prejudices and emotions over logic and reasoning as if we take pleasure in giving prejudice, and enmity a higher status over love and compassion. I take a view no one is an enemy unless we make them as one - siva

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author avatar snerfu
3rd May 2015 (#)

Yes, it is true that formation of states is because of the prejudices one tribe of people have for another that are living right next to them. They draw the border line and continue to subdivide until...their own policies seem prejudicial and they begin shooting each other -- reality!
If people exist who do not recognize this hatred, let alone prejudice, they will never know why their friendly policeman SHOT THEM!
Talk about peace -- WITH GUNS!!!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
4th May 2015 (#)

Dear Snerfu, our prejudices and raw emotions are outscoring love and compassion. We are weighed down by too many prejudices.

I saw a video of a baby saved from the rubble in Syria and how it managed to survive is plain miracle. The natural calamities do occur but not everyday, but man's inhumanity to man is ongoing by the day, 24/7. This happens for any reason or even no reason!

I cannot understand how people can have guns as a routine. People kill or whether guns kill argument is pure semantics, but we are just prejudiced and too emotional to follow reason and logic. We reap what we sow and do the latter without thinking of the consequences - siva

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author avatar snerfu
3rd May 2015 (#)

It is not that I do not love the people who love to turn the other cheek. I am more cautious about the double faced psychopaths with their guns eager to DO DUTY.
Siva, sorry to sound off so much on your blog. I apologize and maintain that I have no ill feeling towards any particular community or nation.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
4th May 2015 (#)

I am only happy to read your comments and thoughts Snerfu. I wave away prejudices and raw emotions as they try to penetrate my defenses! Killing children is just beyond my comprehension.

As I highlight often - what will these people do when they get hold of nuclear weapons? We take a view - we will cross that bridge when we come to it. I hope the ending will be like in a movie with a hero stepping in, though the real hero is always the stoic common citizen with a take - this too will pass! siva

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author avatar Carol
3rd May 2015 (#)

Your work is always full of commonsense and wisdom Siva, and your faith and trust in the Lord shines through. A lovely read as usual.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
4th May 2015 (#)

Thank you for your uplifting words of support Carol, appreciated - siva

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author avatar Mariah
3rd May 2015 (#)

I found this post to be quite emotionally stirring Siva, touchingly strong in empathy for others, your strength of understanding and principle shines out so brightly through your words.. just profoundly inspirational..thank you for this wonderful share my friend.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
4th May 2015 (#)

Thank you Mariah, you are always so encouraging with soothing words of support. Every child is innocent but circumstances and harsh realities of the world we have created acts as a vicious cycle they are drawn into.

Unfortunately, we have no more real leaders but only those who are interested in political posturing day in and day out. For them ordinary citizens are just tools to be manipulated.

We have to step out of petty prejudices that pin us down to a miserable life of existence hardly justifying our true potential. I cannot understand fighting over beliefs and killing others in their name. However, goodness shines in times of calamity and hence there is still the candle of hope within kept flickering by our Creator - siva

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author avatar Carol Roach
4th May 2015 (#)

well done my friend, I also thank God for all he has given me

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
5th May 2015 (#)

Thank you Carol, such attitude hardly gives prejudice much of an entrance - siva

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author avatar Retired
5th May 2015 (#)

Prejudice leads to prejudgment and the latter is a terrible vice for it exposes your cruddy desire to play "God" with vehemence.
Well explained Siva. I couldn't agree more with you on the subject.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
5th May 2015 (#)

Thanks Joyesh. We pay the price for being prejudiced in various ways. That reflects the state of the world we find ourselves in.

We all know of some for whom some can do no wrong while others are all the time at fault whatever they do. I try to look at facts and truth irrespective of the players involved - siva

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author avatar Tranquilpen
5th May 2015 (#)

The passion of a true writer pouring out his literary blood and guts on this page. Thank you for this excellent work Siva.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
6th May 2015 (#)

Thank you TP for your kind and encouraging words. Your nom de plume mirrors my attitude to life as one has to walk miles and miles to understand another.

If everybody thinks and acts as if he/she is right, then the world will be like what we live in! siva

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author avatar Sherri Granato
6th May 2015 (#)

So much wisdom is engulfed within this post. Excellent writing, my friend!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
7th May 2015 (#)

Thank you Sherri. I feel gratified that my share resonates with many to get such encouragement - siva

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author avatar Sherri Granato
6th May 2015 (#)

Congrats on yet another star page!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
7th May 2015 (#)

Thanks Sherri. Congratulations to you too for being the Author of the Day - siva

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author avatar cnwriter..carolina
7th May 2015 (#)

this is wonderful as always dear Siva...such wisdom..it is true i am not much here but i will add some more writings soonr or later! am so busy on google plus nowadays...love to you my very dear friend...

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
7th May 2015 (#)

Thank you dear Carolina - happy for you. Do miss you here and your one of a kind, inimitable, postings - siva

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author avatar Ellen Lord
8th May 2015 (#)

The comments on your posts are almost as engaging as the posts themselves!
Thanks for this message on balance.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
9th May 2015 (#)

Thank you Ellen for your encouragement. I take the comments as the reward for my efforts - siva

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author avatar Retired
12th May 2015 (#)

Congratulations on the Star Page, well written!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
13th May 2015 (#)

Thank you CM for your motivation and encouragement - siva

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author avatar Subra
29th May 2015 (#)

Dear Siva, it is obvious that the roots of prejudice are deep-seated in man's biological and emotional nature and because of this he gets emotional and therefore not able to see reason. In this state of existence, even reasoning and logic become clouded.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
29th May 2015 (#)

Agreed dear Subra, it is an ongoing battle to overcome prejudice for every person. We jump to conclusions and even if proved wrong, our pride does not allow us to admit our mistakes.

Sadly, even the biggest of big powers are led by humans who are at least as fallible if not more than ordinary souls. We are indeed playing with nuclear fire by the day, so time to ponder before we leap - siva

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author avatar Helen Thomas
12th Jun 2015 (#)

This is an excellent post about prejudice and emotions ~ Siva.

Sometimes after a very negative, disturbing and embarrassing emotional outburst, a person will be heard saying: "I just couldn't help it ~ they (the victim) made me do it."

Recognizing the difficulty in doing so at times, I think it is very sad that even aged highly educated individuals ~ seemingly just refuse to tame their emotions.

Thanks for sharing. Blessings!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
12th Jun 2015 (#)

Thanks Helen, I do appreciate your generous support.

When we have something rankling in our minds, it is tough to be balanced as we get weighed down. When our mind is at rest we are balanced to make ideal decisions.

Everyone has varying degrees of prejudices and it is a challenge to overcome them, but I tell myself - never jump to judge another as one should walk in their shoes for miles to know how they feel - siva

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